*Coping problems involve avoidance. When stressed, ask yourself, “What am I avoiding, and why?”
*Allow happiness to emerge in your life by acting in ways that bring you satisfaction.
*Coping well does not mean living up to others’ expectations.
*Relationship troubles? Ask yourself, “Who do I feel I have to be in this relationship to make it work? Do I like myself in this role?”
*Accept your thoughts and feelings, but do not be ruled by them.
*Your emotions are not the problem; your inappropriate actions servicing the emotions are the problem.
*Your actions must be consistent with your conscience, values, and standards.
*Focus on optimistic actions, not words. Thoughts without actions are fantasy.
*No personal pity parties. You have no right to have the corners of your
world padded for you.
*Success is easy. You must also learn to fail.
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